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6 Steps to working with your Teenage boy

body language

When our children become teenagers, often we say, where has our gentle darling gone? Teenagers are not always easy to deal with nor understand, especially boys. Here are a few tips to help.

Here are 6 suggestions of what you can do:

Talk to them.  Teenage boys tend to ignore people,, do not make the mistake of doing this back. Even if it is hard, ask questions and keeping talking, it is the way they will know you care.

Give them space. Boys wants other boys to hand out with all the time, give them this space. They have boundaries, they have a sense of what is right and wrong. So give them more freedom.

Offer advice. Teenage boys are know-it-alls. Truth be told they don’t. They always have some sort of problem they are trying to work out. Encourage trust and they will talk to you and ask for help.

Stay in control.  Do not let them use abusive language, or choose when curfew is. Being affectionate and talking about why his curfew is a certain time will elicit a different response to just saying NO.

Encourage him.  If he has a serious focus on a specific thing, this is your opportunity to engage with him. Ask about it, encourage him. He will then know you care. This will give him self-esteem and overall happiness.

Spend time with him.  Make sure this happens in a natural way. Boys shut of emotionally in these years as they don’t know how to deal with certain new stresses, like girls for example. Make sure you spend time together to get to talk and find out things about his life without snooping.

 

Life lessons we must teach our children

Parent Children Education Engagement

Before I had my children, I was a teacher. I love education, I love seeing children blossom in our schools. I love how teachers are our children’s true heroes.

However I know as a parent now that there are things our schools cannot and do not teach. We have to take responsibility for teaching and guiding our children in regards to life skills and prepare them for their teenager and adult lives.

TEACH YOUR CHILDREN HOW TIME MATTERS
Talk to them about what being on time means, be conscious about it. Spend quality time with your children, not quantity. Teach them to use their time wisely and not to be idle and lustful.

TEACH YOUR CHILDREN HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO FINISH WHAT THEY START
In today’s world, it is so busy, there are so many distractions, if we as parents do not insist on our children finishing everything they start, they will be low achieving and low productivity young adults. So if they start tidying their room and then get distracted and play, take them back to the original task. If they start an extra mural activity, do not let them just stop because they do not like it. Ensure they complete a term and then they may decide to stop. Teach these valuable lessons early and you will set your children up for success.

TEACH YOUR CHILD TO TRY THEIR BEST AND WORK HARD
We need to guide our children to do their best. Working hard will give them results they are proud of. Set up chores at home, when done well, they can have a little bit extra of TV time, to can earn an allowance. Make a game of this.

COMMUNICATE
This skill is the one done badly by all of us. Work on playing games to make children talk in front of their friends, puppets that they make are a great way to get them uninhibited.

RULES
Rules are what keep our world a safe place to live. Teach your child from early, hot and cold, walking with a knife or scissors, the importance of seat belts. Make these lessons into rules.

THE LOVE OF LEARNING
The best way for you to do this, is to read. Read every night with your child. Make it a habit in your home. Take them to zoos, museums, do educational outings with them. Teach them to take an interest in the world around them

INDEPENDENCE
Every child wants to be able to help themselves, show the, how to make their bed, how to brush their teeth, help them to help themselves. Long terms this will ensure a healthy self-esteem and the confidence to do things independently.

MONEY
There are many ways to teach your children this skill. From 2 years old, they can have a little shop at home, when they pack away nicely, they can have a coin. They can swop a coin for a little sweet. The point is they need to learn the value of exchange and that money does not grow on trees.

As a parent, you need to accept and know that you are your child’s first teacher, and it is up to you to teach them the things they cannot learn or be taught at school.

Mistakes Parents Make with Teens

Parenting advice

We have all been teenagers. Here are a few pointers that could make your life much easier having teenagers in the house.

Lecture Rather Than Discuss: We want our teens to grow into responsible adults able to make wise decisions. Teens need to know they are safe in knowing that their parents are there, but not suffocating them.

Ignore the Obvious: Take notice of unusual behavior and talk before it is too late.
Not Following Through on Rules and Consequences: Always make sure your teens know what the consequences are for breaking rules and ensure that you follow through with the rules.

Setting Unreasonable Goals: Set expectations that allow the child to succeed based on his or her abilities.

Pointing out Only the Negative: The best rule is for every negative there are three positive comments. This will ensure that your child will not give up and will strive to succeed.

Leaving the Educating up to “Someone Else”:  We learn most of our habits from our parents so you need to show your children what is wrong and right and set guidelines as to what is correct.

Giving Up on Family Time: Make time for your children on a daily basis to keep communication open. Parents who spend time with their children will be more aware of changes in their demeanor and behavior.

Assume Good Grades Mean No Other Problems: A smart kid who does well in school may be able to maintain good grades even though they are drinking or using drugs. Do not write off other signs of trouble just because the grades are not slipping.

Not Taking the Time to Know What Is Up with Adolescents: It is a good idea to know the Internet and other cultural influences that may affect your child and influence their decision-making.

Giving Up Too Soon: Most teens who have already figured out creative ways to get what they want will not stop after one attempt to change their behavior. Be consistent.

When Kids Say What They Want To Be When They Grow Up

AspirationsEncourage them! Please never project your experience on your child’s life

Not long after children utter their first words are adults asking them the age-old question, “What do you want to be when you grow up?” So what are parents to do when their child declares a future profession?

Here are five tips to remember:

  • You can never go wrong with supporting your child’s dreams, especially when they are very young.
  • Don’t try to influence your child based on your own experiences or desires.
  • Never encourage your child to pursue a profession just for the money.
  • Remind your child that not knowing what they want to do is OK.
  • Talk with your child about their strengths and talents.

Somebody said once: “When I was a kid I wanted to be a fireman. Then I changed my mind in high school and decided to do Engineering in college. Now I am a consultant. And when I grow up I want to be Michael Buble.”

 

Family Traditions and Legacies to Pass On

Potential of a child

We all want to leave a legacy of some sort when we pass on. Have you ever thought about the Traditions your children will do through their lives with their own families? This all starts now in your own home, when they are little.

  • Lunch Box Surprises
  • A Thank You Board
  • Family Dinners
  • Dress Up The Dinner Table
  • Joining Hands For Saying Grace or a Moment of Silence
  • Reading Poetry at the Table
  • Family Read-Aloud Time
  • Memorizing Verse
  • Take an After Dinner Walk
  • Bedtime Whispers
  • A Bad Dreams Chaser
  • Reading and Playing in Bed
  • A Place for Silence in your Home
  • A Garden Sanctuary
  • Family Work Days
  • Family Time
  • Children Cook
  • Family Meetings
  • Birthday Celebrations
  • Annual Letters
  • Choose a Name for Your House
  • Decorate your Home for Every Season
  • Handmade Gifts
  • Lessons in Charity and Service
  • A Family Scrapbook

Living a life enriched by little touches of kindness and celebration is no easy feat in this world. Family life can be enhanced by all sorts of small thoughtful acts and activities enjoyed together. Don’t try to overdo it or you’ll just add to the burdens of your day. Try to select a few that suit your personal style and schedule.