Our body language determines how others perceive us. Apart from verbal communication, our body has a language of its own, and in some instances not always kind. Our body language form an integral part of who we are and in most instances we never think about it. To avoid sabotaging our careers or socially, it i important to take note of our body language.
Those of us who have excellent nonverbal communications skills tells others that you are confident, energetic, an honest. While poor nonverbal skills may give the impression that you have allow self-esteem and lack interest.
Both socially and in the business world,it is critical to be aware of your body language. Nonverbal communication and gestures can make or break relationships and have a significant impact on your success.
Here are few of the most common body language mistakes that we make and emotionally intelligent people are careful to avoid.
Poor posture and slouching are signs of disrespect. It shows that you are bored and have no interest to be where you are. Bad posture is due to bad backs, fatigue, lack of confidence, or general disregard.
Mirror and not being in sync with others. When you are interested and like someone, it is natural to match and mirror their voice, tone, tempo, body posture , and movements.
Avoid fidgeting and exaggerating gestures. Over exaggerating gestures and fidgeting implies that you are stretching the truth and lack confidence. Avoid fidgeting and big hand movements. Small gestures show leadership and confidence.
Looking at your watch is a clear sign of disrespect. Avoid looking at the time on your phone or watch because this is a clear sign of disrespect, impatience, and an inflated ego. It is a tell-tale sign that you have better things to do and want to leave.
Never turn away from others. Turning away from others or not leaning into the conversation only shows that you are unengaged, uninterested, uncomfortable, and perhaps even distrustful of the person speaking.
Avoid crossing your arms and legs. When you cross your legs or arms is a sign that you closed off from what the other person is saying. Even if you are smiling and engaged in conversation,the other party to the conversation might feel that you are disinterested and closed off to what they are saying.
Always give physical feedback and / or facial expressions. Avoid feedback and blank facial expressions shows that you have no empathy or interest in what the other person is saying. Inconsistency between your words and your facial expression causes people to sense that something isn’t right and that you might be trying to deceive them.
Don’t overdo your nodding. Over exaggerating your nodding is a clear signal of anxiety.People might think you are agreeing with them or understand, ut you actually don’t.
Never fidget or play with your hair. This is clear sign that you are anxious, over-energized, self-conscious, and distracted.
Avoid leaning back in your chair. Leaning back is a clear sign of indifference and lack of interest in the opposite person. Lean forward but never on the age of your chair.
Always keep good eye contact. Eye contact is one of the main components of nonverbal communication. Avoiding eye contact shows that you have something to hide and arouses suspicion. It also is a sign of lack of confidence and interest.
Make sure your handshake is firm. A handshake should be firm but not overbearing. Weak handshakes signal that you lack authority and confidence, while a handshake that is too strong could be perceived as an aggressive attempt at domination.
Be aware of the level of your laughter. Laughter is indicative of the level of comfort between people. Too much or fake daughter could imply that your are being deceptive. Too little is a sign of lack communication and interest.
Never roll you eyes. Rolling of your eyes only shows and communicates your lack of respect.
Avoid touching your face. Try keeping your hands away from your face because touching of your nose is a sign of deception while covering your mouth is a sign that you are lying.
Try not to narrow your eyes. Narrowing your is difficult to avoid because we do this when we think. However it is also a sign of anger.
Avoid unhappy expressions. Scowling or having a generally unhappy expression indicates that you are upset with those around you and will turn people away with a feeling of being judged. A happy facial expression suggest that you are open, confident, and friendly.
Never tap your fingers or foot. Tapping your fingers or feet when talking to someone. this is a clear sign that your are bored and not interested in what the other person has to say.
Don’t clench your fist. Much like crossing your arms and legs, clenching you fist is a clear sign that you are not open to other’s opinions or thoughts. It could also perceive that you are argumentative and defensive.
Be aware of the personal space of others. Never stand too close to someone because it is a sign of no respect for or understanding of personal space.
Leave your cellphone off the table. Avoid placing your cellphone between yourself and the person you are talking to. It will symbolize that your cellphone is more important the person.
In conclusion, be aware and avoiding these body language and nonverbal blunders will help you forge song relationships both personally and professionally.