People tend to believe that others are only likeable for traits they are born with such as good looks, being social or having amazing talents. In reality this is not the case and being likeable is fully in your control. These are some of the most common habits that make people likeable.
They Ask Questions – a lot of the time things people say can to you can be lost because your busy thinking about what you are going to say next or how this person affects you. The best way to handle this is to ask questions while they are talking to you as this will ensure that they know you are listening to them.
They Put Away Their Phones – There is nothing worse than trying to have a conversation with someone who is constantly looking at their phones. Put your phone away and focus on the conversation and it will instantly become more enjoyable.
They Are Genuine – Being genuine and honest is essential to being likeable. No one likes a fake. People gravitate toward those who are genuine because they know they can trust them. It is difficult to like someone when you don’t know who they really are and how they really feel.
They Don’t Pass Judgment – If you want to be likeable you must be open-minded. Being open-minded makes you approachable and interesting to others. No one wants to have a conversation with someone who has already formed an opinion and is not willing to listen.
They Don’t Seek Attention – Being friendly is often all you need to do. Trying to have this extroverted attention seeking attitude can often turn people away as they do not need to know how important you are or how many people you know.
They Are Consistent – Few things make you more unlikeable than when you are all over the place. When people approach you, they like to know whom they’re dealing with and what sort of response they can expect. To be consistent you must be reliable, and you must ensure that even when your mood goes up and down it doesn’t affect how you treat other people.
They Use Positive Body Language – Having positive open body language will always draw people to you.
They Leave a Strong First Impression – Research shows most people decide whether or not they like you within the first seven seconds of meeting you. They then spend the rest of the conversation internally justifying their initial reaction. This may sound terrifying, but by knowing this you can take advantage of it to make huge gains in your likeability. First impressions are tied intimately to positive body language.
They Greet People by Name – Using people’s names more than when you greet them makes people feel terrific. Don’t feel bad if you forget a person’s name. Make a joke out of it. A lot of people are good with remembering faces but are terrible with names and people will always understand.
They Smile – People naturally mirror the body language of the person they’re talking to. If you want people to like you, smile at them during a conversation and they will unconsciously return the favor and feel good as a result.
They Know When to Open Up – Be careful to avoid sharing personal problems and confessions too quickly, as this will get you labeled a complainer. Likeable people let the other person guide when it’s the right time for them to open up.
They Know Who to Touch – When you touch someone during a conversation, you release oxytocin in their brain, a neurotransmitter that makes their brain associate you with trust and a slew of other positive feelings. Just remember, relationships are built not just from words, but also from general feelings about each other. Touching someone appropriately is a great way to show you care.
They Balance Passion and Fun – Likeable people balance their passion with the ability to have fun. At work they are serious, yet friendly. They still get things done because they are socially effective in short amounts of time and they capitalize on valuable social moments. They minimize small talk and gossip and instead focus on having meaningful interactions with their coworkers. They remember what you said to them yesterday or last week, which shows that you’re just as important to them as their work.
Bringing It All Together – Likeable people are invaluable and unique. They network with ease, promote harmony in the workplace, bring out the best in everyone around them, and generally seem to have the most fun. Add these skills to your repertoire and watch your likeability soar!